He is eight years old, autistic, and still wearing diapers 24/7. He also has a diagnosis of encopresis (stool withholding) and requires an adult dose of Miralax in order to poop.
The thing is, he knows when he is soiling his diaper. I see him stop, stand still, concentrate and pee into his diaper. When he needs to poop he sits on the ground, braces his legs against something and tries to hold it in. When he is finished he comes to me and says, "Diaper?" If I don't change him right away he gets very annoyed and will tantrum.
In my book this sort of behavior tells me Noah is capable of using the potty. He is still not night-dry but I am trying to look at this potty training adventure as a staircase. The first step is getting him to sit on the potty. The next step is actual elimination into it. Near the middle he will be diaper free during the daytime and somewhere near the top we have full day and night freedom from diapers.
Currently just sitting on the toilet is very upsetting to Noah. Worried he was afraid of falling in I purchased a potty-insert and a step stool to rest his feet. Noah picked out the Spongebob Squarepants insert from an assortment of characters and seemed quite taken with it while in the store. Once we were back home and Mommy put it in the toilet? Not so much.
Case in point.....this video taken the day we got it.
Clearly he just LOVES using the toilet. Ahem.
Sam was fully potty trained just after his ninth birthday and because he had absolutely no fear of the toilet it was relatively easy once he learned to listen to his body and recognize the urge to eliminate. Prior to that he would seem very confused by his bodily functions and didn't appear to understand what was happening. Obviously this is yet another example of how my boys are complete opposites from one another.
I'd love to hear your suggestions on what might help Noah (and me!) during this transition. What worked well for your child? Was there anything that definitely didn't work and was a total waste of time? Do you have a number for a potty training support group? If not, should I consider starting one?
Now if you'll excuse me I have to run to the potty myself.... And I'd like to say thanks to my mom for not throwing in the towel teaching me to do it. From what she told me I was not an easy sell.
Oh, the irony. I can almost hear her laughs all the way from heaven.
**Be sure to visit BlogHer's parents page on Tuesday, June 18th where my previous post titled, A letter to my sons' neurotypical friends, has been syndicated.**